FAQs. Frequently Asked Questions.
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Frequently asked questions
Media Inquiries
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You may find this work-in-progress intended for journalists to be of some help:
Technical
What are the video specifications Our-Comeback prefers for videos submitted to Comedy, Music, Poetry Slams and Town Halls?
If you’re not technical, don’t sweat it. Just send what you have and we’ll figure it out. If you know your way around video encoding, here’s what would be best.
I need help installing the Mac Screen Savor.
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I need help with the Windows PC Screen Savor.
My Safari browser says your forms are Not Secure!
Please see macreports.com/safari-says-not-secure-what-does-it-mean.
For the Mac Screen Savor, how do I know which version of Mac OS I have?
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My computer runs slow when I’m on Our-Comeback. What can I do?
Our-Comeback is graphic- and video-intensive. You might need to clear your browser, even clear it frequently.
How do I Log In as a Player on mobile?
The Log In option is called “Players Check-in.” It is the top item in the mobile site menu.
How do I Sign up as a Player on mobile?
Sign up is an option on the “Players Check-in” screen.
Our-Comeback in General
How can you say [any currently dominant gender-issues notion] is not true?
Our-Comeback is not intended for people who ask such questions. Not that you don’t deserve respectful answers, but because we don’t have the resources to engage with you. We devote our limited resources to engaging with people who ask different quesions — questions about why they feel that something is terribly wrong and wrong-headed about the apprehension of power and privilege between the sexes. We want to help them know that they are not the only ones who feel as they feel, that there are legitimate reasons for them to feel as they feel, and to give them hope and methods for effecting the cultural change that would help them not to feel hopeless or angry or as if they are going crazy.
Who’s the Coach?
The Coach is Jack Kammer, MSW, MBA. He is a white male, born in Baltimore in 1951. He objects to the term “Stale, Pale and Male” often used by supposed diversity activists to sweepingly disparage his demographic and render it irrelevant at best, antithetical at worst, to the creation of a healthy, balanced, inclusive society.
Men’s issues? What are men’s issues?
- Health Disparities between women and men
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The fact that there are seven federal offices in women’s health and zero for men -
Significant discrepancies in ACA coverage for women’s health and men’s -
Despite the fact that men die six years younger than women
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The discrepancy between the amount of understanding and empathy the culture provides to women and that afforded to men. -
The absence of the Rebuttable Presumption for Joint Custody after divorce in every state as a fundamental principle of antisexism and the Best Interests of Children -
Disparities in suicide between women and men, girls and boys. -
Educational disparities between girls and boys -
The fact that the math/science achievement gap facing girls receives far more attention than the much larger reading/writing gap facing boys.
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False allegations of gender-based crimes; the mantra of “Believe the Woman” -
Disparities in Parental Leave policies and how they are actually implemented and regulated by employers -
The still-persistent notion that men are responsible for financing courtship, a practice that establishes bad patterns of expectations about men and money. -
The male-only Selective Service requirement -
Disparity in concern about the absence of women in STEM fields and concern about the absence of men in social services and social sciences fields, in which gender diversity would seem much more important than in math, science and engineering. -
Women’s ability to impose social and sexual sanctions on men, which pose much the same inequities as men’s ability to threaten physical sanctions against women. -
Concern for negative stereotyping of girls and women, unmatched by social concern for negative stereotyping of boys and men. -
The intersectionality of sex + gender on marginalized men. -
Paternity Fraud, depriving men of opportunities to parent their genetic children. -
Domestic Violence Against Men -
Disparities in criminal sentencing of men and women. -
The “free ride” the media give to women and their advocacy. The excessive skepticism the media give to men as we pursue our social change agenda. -
The subtle and not-so-subtle suggestions to boys that making lots of money is a privilege granted inequitably to males and is, of course, the most wonderful and important thing in life for which all boys and men should feel lucky (and guilty) under pain of being regarded as losers and not being regarded for qualities other than making money — when no woman would tolerate girls being cajoled, controlled and limited ito such a narrow, imbalanced, dessicated view of life.
Are you MRAs, Men’s Rights Activists?
We are certainly concerned about men’s rights, but our larger interest is in men’s social issues, of which their rights are a part. Our biggest idea of all is that men’s social issues are everyone’s social issues.
What are your views on feminism?
Feminism is exactly 50 percent right. Anyone who doesn’t understand that is 100 percent wrong. Few feminists understand it.
This is misogyny!
No, the Female Shadow's favorite word is "misogyny." This is misterogyny.
Are women eligible for the team?
Yes, of course. Who understands the aggressively. offensively defensive strategies and tactics of the other team better than a person who was raised to play for it? In fact, women have been part of Our Comeback since long before the team formally existed.